Internationalmatt's Blog

This blog is about my international friends and their inspiring stories

Diverse Cultures come together- Friendships formed through food

I teach an English class at an Elementary School for parents of the children. My class has three distinct cultures that have many contrasts and differences. The three groups are Hispanic women who are Mostly Catholic, Iraqi women who are Muslim, and Ukrainian women who are Pentecostal and Orthodox. They differ in culture, religion, and language. Some have higher levels of English than others and fro the most part had not had much interaction with each other before the class began. We will be meeting together for a long time, so I wanted to see some community build in the class. We had a lunch on December 18th and each student brought food from their culture.

Hispanic food at our luncheon

Dohlma from Iraq

We followed some principles that I set out to avoid possible problems. One principle was to respect and understand any cultural differences regarding dietary restrictions. I asked my Iraqi students if it would be okay if I bought Halal chicken for the Hispanic women to use to cook their food. Some Muslims eat only Halal meat. For those not familiar with Halal think of Kosher and you get a bit of the idea. I explained to the other women that for our Iraqi friends only Halal meat can be used. They had a meeting with school liaisons who helped them to understand the issues concerning Halal meat. My Hispanic women understood and agreed to use the chicken from the Arabic store that I planned to buy.

Another principle was to make it a cooperative group project with the thought that if we worked on something together it would help to build friendships. To accomplish this the women wrote recipes for the food they made. The recipes will be shared with the school staff and within the class. Another benefit of the recipes is that it allows the women to share their culture with future generations who probably will not be fluent in the language of my students. Writing the recipes also helped them to learn some English words used for cooking, so it turned the luncheon into an ongoing English lesson.

the salad that surprised the women

The lunch went very well and it was interesting to see how the women discovered even little things from each culture. One of my Iraqi students made a salad using cucumber, onion, tomato and cilantro. The Hispanic women were pleasantly surprised to find out that women from Iraq use cilantro. The Iraqi women tried some of the food the Hispanic women made using the Halal chicken and even went back for more. They all liked the dessert one of the Ukrainian women made. They talked and shared culture and friendships were formed through sharing food. When we came back from our break last week they were talking with each other and when we split into groups by English level they were helping each other. I will ask them today if I can post their recipes with pictures.

January 11, 2010 Posted by | Cross Cultural, Cultural Ambassdors, Experiences of international friends, food, Hispanic friends, International Friendships, Internationals, Mexico, Middle East friends, Muslims, Mutlicultural, Ukrainian friends | 2 Comments

Thanksgiving week fun- lunch with Sudanese friends

Sally, Mohanad's father, Mohanad and one of their boys

On Saturday I had the fun experience of visiting some friends from Sudan to eat lunch with them. We had a lot of fun and a lot of good food. It has been my experience that when I visit a friend’s house from another culture that the food is delicious and plentiful. My time on Saturday with Mohanad and Sally certainly fit that description.

When I arrived, one of the first things I noticed was all of the food on the table. I met Mohanad’s father who is here visiting. I also met two young energetic boys who were a lot of fun to be around. We had a great meal and a good time together.

Sally, Mohanad's father, and me with their two boys

After lunch we sat down to talk, drink tea, and eat desserts. Sally is a wonderful cook and Mohanad is a good host. Every time my plate started to get empty Mohanad put more food on my plate. I was so full that I could only eat a little dessert.

me wearing some of their traditional clothing

Sharing a meal is one of the best ways to get to know friends from other cultures. We all had a good laugh when I tried on some of their traditional clothing. Mohanad’s father helped me with the head wear. My time with them made me think about how we need to take time to get to know people for who they are and not stereotype. Mohanad and Sally love their sons, and want to learn English so they can provide a good future for their sons. They may wear different clothes and have a different religion than me, but they want a good life for their family just like most of us do.

me with Mohanad's father

Right before I left, I asked why Mohanad did not have a big stomach like me with all the delicious food Sally cooks. We also got online so we could become facebook friends and so I could show them some pictures. It was a wonderful afternoon with my new friends.

November 24, 2009 Posted by | African friends, Cross Cultural, Cultural Ambassdors, International Friendships, Internationals, Muslims, Stereotypes, Sudanese friends, Uncategorized | Leave a Comment

Our Middle Eastern friends in Light of the Tragedy at Fort Hood

Abdol 005

a meal with Iranian friends

Last night I had a wonderful experience. I spent the evening with a family from Iran. They are not Muslim. They are Baptist and came here for religious freedom. We had a great time with delicious food, good conversation, and a lot of laughter. Abdol is the father/new grandfather. His granddaughter is 3 months old. He talks about his granddaughter all the time. He his wife and family. His cousin joined us along with his wife. I enjoyed sharing an evening with them.

I have met many people from the Middle East- technically Iran is not in the Middle East- that are not Muslim. I have met people who are Christian, Catholic, B’Hai, and Yezedi. Even within the Muslim religion there are different sects of Islam. The reason I mention the diversity is that we might make the mistake of thinking that all people from the Middle East are the same. They are not. After 9-11 there were people who looked Middle Eastern who were mistreated. One that stands out in my mind was a man from India who is a Seik. Someone pulled his turban off. That was strange because India is not in the Middle East. There were other forms of harrassment and President Bush gave a speech about how that is not the American way of doing things

With all the diversity of beliefs and cultures I have observed within the “Middle East” community there is one thing that they have in common- they want to live where they are free, free from Brutal dictators, free from the violence of war, free to practice their religion, free to live in peace with their families. If we take the time to get to know our neighbors who look different than us, we may be pleasantly surprised to find out that they are more like we are than we know. Their food may be different, they may look different, but they will welcome you, show you family pictures, and appreciate your friendship.

November 7, 2009 Posted by | Cross Cultural, Cultural Ambassdors, Discrimination, Experiences of international friends, Iran, Muslims | Leave a Comment

Muslim friends in America in light of The Fort Hood tragedy

I will never forget the early days after September 11th. Having Muslim friends was still a relatively new experience for me. I had some new friends Iraq who were Muslim. I had Muslims in my classes. They were fearful about what might happen to them because of what a handful of crazy people did on September 11th. I have to admit that at times I wondered in the back of my mine were some of the young men that I knew capable of deplorable acts. I made the conscious decision to not let that get in the way with how I treated my Muslim friends. I will never forget how a few days after 9-11, I went with a friend from Iraq to an appliance store when he needed to buy a new washing machine. He and his wife had just bought a house. They had both worked hard and did all the things they needed to do to provide for their family in the right way. They needed a washing machine badly, so I went with Mohammed to the appliance store. People were staring at us while we were in the store. I felt a little of the discrimination that my friends must have experienced those days following 9-11.

Now we have another tragedy at the hands of one obviously crazy man. I wonder if it was because of his faith or because of mental illness that he did such a horrific thing as to shoot unarmed people. I wonder how my Muslim friends will be treated this time following  senseless brutality.I am mindful that there are probably more crazy people like the Army Major in Texas. I am mindful that Timothy McVey committed mass murder of women and children at the Oklahoma City Federal Building and was not a Muslim. I am also very mindful of who most of my Muslim friends are.

Most of my Muslim friends came here as refugees fleeing brutal dictators or war. They want to live in peace and hope for a brighter future for their families. Many of them work hard and go to English classes even though they are tired. They have shown me wonderful hospitality when I have visited their homes. I have heard their stories of what they survived before they came here. They wish the insane violence in their countries and brutal treatment by their governments would end.

When we see Muslims out and about in our community, we might have thoughts in the back of our minds, but if we make a conscious choice to not allow them to interfere with how we treat them, we may open up a new friendship that we value. My friends that needed the washing machine have invited me to their home several times to have dinner with them. I have been to birthday parties for their children. Basically if we show the kindness and friendship that America can be known for, we can build bridges with our Muslim friends.

 

November 6, 2009 Posted by | Discrimination, Experiences of international friends, International Friendships, Muslims, Refugees | 2 Comments

   

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